People who have read my book "What Got You Here Won't Get You There" often tell me they found themselves several times in the book!
What habits could you stop that are holding you back from getting to the top?
Look at the list below to find the 20 habits I often find in successful people. I help successful leaders become even more successful by helping them stop these habits:
1. Winning too much: the need to win at all costs and in all situations - when it matters, when it doesn't, and when it's totally beside the point.
2. Adding value: the overwhelming desire to add our two cents to every discussion.
3. Passing judgment: the need to rate others and impose our standards on them.
4. Making destructive comments: the needless sarcasms and cutting remarks that we think make us sound sharp and witty.
5. Starting with "No," "But," or "However": the overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone, "I'm right. You're wrong."
6. Telling the world how smart you are: the need to show people we're smarter than they think we are.
7. Speaking when angry: using emotional volatility as a management tool.
8. Negativity, or "Let me explain why that won't work": the need to share our negative thoughts even when we weren't asked.
9. Withholding information: the refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others.
10. Failing to give proper recognition: the inability to praise and reward.
11. Claiming credit that we don't deserve: the most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success.
12. Making excuses: the need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it.
13. Clinging to the past: the need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subset of blaming everyone else.
14. Playing favorites: failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.
15. Refusing to express regret: the inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we're wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.
16. Not listening: the most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues.
17. Failing to express gratitude: the most basic form of bad manners.
18. Punishing the messenger: the misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help us.
19. Passing the buck: the need to blame everyone but ourselves.
20. An excessive need to be "me": exalting our faults as virtues simply because they"re who we are.
Source: by Marshall Goldsmith, with Mark Reiter, "What Got You Here Won't Get You There", pp. 40-41 Hyperion Books. Available from Amazon.com.
Life is good.
Marshall
My newest book, MOJO, is a New York Times (advice), Wall Street Journal (business), USAToday (money) and Publisher's Weekly (non-fiction) best seller. It is now available online and at major bookstores.
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4 comments:
I finished your audiobook on the subject today. It was a timely thing for me and your practical advice took a lot of burden off of my mind, thanks. But the problem that your book has created for me is- I've started to observe myself and to some extent others victim of some of the shortcomings. Thanks for your work, believe that I will be implementing and sustaining these suggestions.
Very true indeed. One needs to watch those habits as they are rather on auto pilot and definitely not constructive.
Enlightening post! Grateful to @jimhunt and @stacijshelton for sharing it this morning in my twitter stream.
I recently blogged an article on "just who I am" (your # 20) http://www.tiny9.com/u/7065, and I couldn't be more aligned. We're SO enamored with our patterns that we just believe in our hearts of hearts that everyone should be equally enamored. How's that workin' for ya?
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