Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Influencing Up

Organizations suffer when key people can't effectively influence up. Most people are occupied with efforts rather than results. They worry over what the organization or their boss owes them and should do for them and obsess over the authority they 'should have,' thus rendering themselves ineffectual.

Although knowledge workers may know more about what they are doing than their managers do and have years of education and experience, they rarely know how to effectively influence up. Even the greatest wisdom and knowledge not applied to action and behavior is meaningless.

To influence upper management and convert good ideas into meaningful action, follow these 10 guidelines:

1. When presenting ideas, realize that it is your responsibility to sell-- not their responsibility to buy. Influencing up is similar to selling products or services to customers.

They don't have to buy--you have to sell! Great salespeople take responsibility for achieving results, refusing to blame their customers for not buying their products. Most professionals blame management for not buying their ideas; hence, upward feedback often turns into 'upward buck-passing.' You become disempowered when you focus on what others have done to make things wrong--not what you can do to make things right.

By developing your ability to present ideas, and not blaming management for not buying your ideas, you accomplish much more. The knowledge worker is expected to take responsibility for being understood. It is arrogance to assume that laymen can or should make the effort to understand the specialist. The effective upward influencer needs to be a good teacher.

Good teachers realize the communicating knowledge is often a greater challenge than possessing knowledge.

2. Focus on contribution to the larger good--not just the achievement of your objectives. An effective salesperson would never say to a customer, 'You need to buy this product, because if you don't, I won't achieve my objectives!' They relate to the needs of the buyers, not to their own needs. Similarly, effective upward influencers relate to the larger needs of the organization, not just to the needs of their unit or team. When influencing up, focus on the impact of the decision on the organization. In most cases, the needs of the unit and the needs of the corporation are directly connected. In some cases they are not.

Don't assume that executives can automatically 'make the connection' between the benefit to your unit and the benefit to the larger corporation.

3. Strive to win the big battles and don't waste your energy and 'psychological capital' on trivial points.

Leader's time is limited. Don't waste time on issues that will only have a negligible impact on results --focus on issues that will make a real difference. Be willing to 'lose' on small points. Be sensitive to the need to win trivial nonbusiness arguments on things like restaurants, sports teams or cars. People become more annoyed with you for having to be 'right' on trivia than your need to be right on important business points.

You are paid to do what makes a difference and to win on important issues.

4. Present a realistic cost-benefit analysis of your ideas--don't just sell benefits. Every organization has limited resources, time, and energy. The acceptance of your idea may well mean the rejection of another idea that someone else believes is wonderful. Be prepared to have a realistic discussion of the costs of your idea. Acknowledge that something else may have to be sacrificed to implement your idea. When you prepare for a realistic discussion of costs, you can 'prepare for objections' to your idea, acknowledge the sacrifice that someone else may have to make, and point out how the benefits of your plan outweigh the costs.

5. Challenge up on issues involving ethics or integrity--never remain silent on ethics violations. Enron, WorldCom, and other organizations show how ethics violations--only one violation of corporate integrity--can damage or destroy even the most valuable companies.

If your management ever asks you to do anything that violates corporate ethics, refuse to do it and immediately let upper management know of your concerns. Such action ultimately benefits your company, your customers, your co-worker and yourself. When challenging up, try not to assume that management has intentionally requested you to do something wrong. In some cases, inappropriate requests may be made because of misunderstandings or poor communication. Try to present your case in a manner that is intended to be helpful, not judgmental.

6. Realize that your managers are just as human as you are--don't say, 'I am amazed that someone at this level…' It is realistic to expect upper managers to be competent; it is unrealistic to expect them to be superhuman. Is there anything in human history that indicates when people achieve high levels of status, power and money, they become completely wise and logical? How often do you think, 'I would assume someone at this level…' followed by 'should know what is happening', 'should be more logical', 'wouldn't make that mistake', or 'would never engage in such inappropriate behavior.' Even the best of leaders are human. We all make mistakes. When your managers make mistakes, focus more on helping them than judging them.

7. Treat managers with the same courtesy that you would treat partners or customers. While you must avoid 'kissing up' to upper management, you also must avoid the opposite reaction. Many managers spend hours 'trashing' the company and its executives or making destructive comments about other co-workers. Before speaking, ask four questions: Will this comment help our company? Will this comment help our customers? Will this comment help the person that I am talking to? Will this comment help the person that I am talking about? If the answers are no, don't say it! There is a big difference between total honesty and dysfunctional disclosure. It's vital to 'challenge up' on integrity issues. It is often inappropriate to 'trash down' when making personal attacks.

8. Support the final decision of the team--don't say, 'They made me tell you' to direct reports. Assuming that the final decision of the team is not immoral, illegal, or unethical--go out and try to make it work! Managers who consistently say, 'they told me to tell you' to co-workers are seen as 'messengers' not leaders. Even worse, don't say, 'those fools told me to tell you'. By revealing your lack of commitment to the final decision, you may sabotage the chances for effective exe cution. When communicating difficult decisions, ask, 'How would I want someone to communicate to their people if they were passing down my final decision and they disagreed with me?' Treat your manager in the same way that you would want to be treated if the roles were reversed.

9. Make a positive difference--don't just try to 'win' or 'be right'. You can easily become more focused on what others are doing wrong, than how you can make things better. An important guideline in influencing up is to always remember your goal to make a positive difference for your organization. Corporations are different than academic institutions. In an academic institution the goal may be sharing ideas, not impacting the world. Hours of acrimonious debate can be perfectly acceptable.

In a corporation, sharing ideas without having an impact is worse than useless. It is a waste of the stockholders money and a distraction from serving customers. The most common area for improvement for most executives is the compulsion of 'winning too much'.

Focus on making a difference. The more other people can 'be right' or 'win' with your idea, the more likely your idea is to be successfully executed.

10. Focus on the future--let go of the past. Avoid whining about the past.

Have you ever managed someone who incessantly whined about how bad things are? When people consistently whine, they inhibit any chance they have for impacting the future. Their managers view them as annoying, and their direct reports view them as inept.

Nobody wins. Successful people love getting ideas aimed at helping them achieve their goals for the future. They dislike being 'proven wrong' because of mistakes in the past. By focusing on the future, you can concentrate on what can be achieved tomorrow, as opposed to what was not achieved yesterday. This future orientation will dramatically increase your odds of effectively influencing up and build better long-term relationships.

How much energy have you invested in acquiring your knowledge? How much energy have you invested in learning to present this knowledge so that you can make a real difference? By learning to influence up, you can make a large, positive difference for the future of your organization!

Life is good.

Marshall

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Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Money vs. Meaning

How can you create a great rest of your life? Obviously you start with today. That's why I only engage in 'feed forward' (not feedback). There is nothing you or I can do about the past, except to apologize for our mistakes, ask forgiveness, and invite suggestions on ways we might improve in one or two development areas.

I find that fewer people today want to retire, at least in the sense of a life of leisure. Instead, they want to rehire themselves and keep pursuing their hopes and dreams. They still have the ambition and energy to achieve great success. The prospects of sleeping late, living on the beach, improving their golf scores, going on cruises, and playing all day hold little allure for them.

The Big Six
When preparing for your next transition, address six themes:

1. Wealth. While some people have more wealth than others, none believe money is a key factor in 'creating a great rest of my life.' Everyone agrees that while money can be used to pay for nice homes, fast cars, and fine dining, it can't be used to purchase meaning. Beyond a middle-income level, the amount of money you have bears little correlation to how happy you are.

2. Health. Health is critically important to enjoying life. With good luck, a healthy lifestyle, and medical care, you might well live another 20 or 30 years after 'retirement.'

3. Relationships. Everyone clearly values relationships with friends and family members and sees that these relationships are keys to their future wellbeing. In spite of busy schedules and demanding lives, you can have positive, stable relationships with friends and family.

4. Contribution. Realize how blessed you are and seek to give back, make a positive contribution to the world, and leave a legacy. Seek to help others in the same way that mentors, teachers, parents, or friends have helped you.

5. Meaning. People want to continue doing work that has true meaning. No one wants to become a 'used to be,' in the sense of 'Didn't you used to be a big CEO?' or 'Didn't you used to be an important person?' No one wants to rest on their laurels while reviewing their scrapbooks and awards for 20 or 30 years--they all want to continue making a real difference in the world.

6. Happiness. Everybody wants to be happy. Just realize that true happiness can't be bought--it has to be lived. At a deeper level, happiness can't be separated from meaning and contribution--it comes from meaning and contribution.

Of the six themes, three are most common: contribution, meaning, and happiness.

As you contemplate these themes, you might choose to work exclusively on projects that make the world a better place. You might choose to change jobs or career where you have more opportunity to serve. You might still teach, but advise people on how to have a great life--not just make more money.

Reflecting on life's purpose should start when you're young--and never stop. I served on the board of the Peter Drucker Foundation for 10 years and observed Peter personally. He worked until his death at age 95. He was never interested in retiring. Through his example, I learned that making a difference means more than making a living.

Think about your life. Now's the time to start planning the rest of your life. How can you make a contribution? How can you find meaning? What will make you happy? You may well have 20 or 30 years to live after your present work is finished.

How can you make this time count--for yourself and the people around you.

Life is good.

Marshall

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Tuesday, February 08, 2011

The Joys of Giving Thanks When Times Are Tough

This Thanksgiving is very different from those we have experienced in the past several years.

In ways both large and small, good folks around the world have been hurt by the current economic crisis. Our stock portfolios have diminished. Our houses are not as valuable as they used to be. The net worth of many people has been cut in half. Planned retirements are being postponed indefinitely. Good people are losing their jobs through no fault of their own. The pressure of paying back student loans without a good job is kicking in.

Nevertheless, I find that many of the people I encounter in my travels around the world are meeting these challenges and viewing the changes in positive ways. Following are some comments from my friends, partners, and clients that show how we can still be thankful in hard times:

- "There is no use dwelling on the past. What is done is done. In hindsight, would I have done some things differently? Of course! I cannot change that now. I wake up every morning and take one day at a time. I am focused on creating a great future. I am grateful for the opportunities that I have."

- "In a strange way, my recent 'disasters' have actually made me more thankful. I was lost in the frenzy of striving for more, more, more. I have given up a lot of material worth. I now realize that what I have lost doesn't matter that much. I still have my health, friends, and family. I am grateful for the fact that I now understand what really matters."

- "I have a good job. I used to gripe about all kinds of minor annoyances at work. There are a lot of people out there who are much worse off than I am. Now I am very grateful to have a steady income and health care benefits. All the little things that bothered me so much don't matter anymore."

- "I have more time now. I am using it to invest in my future. I am doing what I always said I was going to do--but never quite got around to doing. I am grateful that I have a chance to do what I should have been doing all along."

- "I love my work. As an independent contractor, I have had to cut my fees. Who cares? I still love what I am doing and am grateful to be doing what I love."

- "My company has lost almost all of its value and has been bought. I am going to be working for another company now. They used to be our competitors. We used to make such as big deal out of 'beating' them. I now realize that this is just a game. I am going to do my best to make a contribution, but I am no longer going to 'worship the Corporate God'--and put so much of my soul in the hands of people who are just trying to make money. I am going to take responsibility for my own life--and live my own values. I am grateful to have this realization while I am in my 40s."

- "My family is closer than ever. Some of us aren't doing so well. We are doing whatever we can to help each other. I am grateful that we love each other and support each other when times are tough."

Personally, I'm very grateful to have the opportunity to communicate with you, my readers. Hundreds of thousands of people have read "Marshall & Friends." Many have sent me wonderful comments and e-mails. I have learned so much from you, and I am very grateful for your interest in what I write.

"Great is the need of the student to learn--far greater is the need of the teacher to teach." As a teacher, trying to help you out--even a little--adds value to my life. Thank you!

Life is good.

Marshall

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Thursday, February 03, 2011

Ask Questions Daily

What if you could implement a process that costs almost nothing, takes about three minutes a day, and if you stick with it, will help you achieve your full potential? Would you try it out? Let me tell you more! My colleague, Andrew Thorn, taught me this fascinating daily questions process and tried it out on me. Since then, I have been doing it with my good friend, Jim Moore, former CLO of Sun Microsystems, Nortel, and BellSouth. Both Jim and I have been amazed at how well this works! Every day Jim asks me the same 24 questions. Every day I ask Jim the same 17 questions. A key to the success of the process is that each person writes his or her own questions. Each one of our questions can be answered by yes, no, or a number. This keeps the process moving quickly. We send each other weekly results from an Excel spreadsheet.

One rule -- no negative feedback! No matter what the other person has done, we say nothing that may produce guilt. On the other hand, we make positive comments that reinforce success. Recently, I asked Jim how much he weighed. Since we began, he had lost 20 pounds. I said, “Great job! That’s a new record!” Jim and I live miles apart, and we both travel extensively. Yet we still connect by phone on about 80 percent of the days. When we miss a day or two, we catch up later.

For example, I will share some of the questions that I have written for Jim to ask me. Please remember my questions reflect my values and may not work for you.

Jim’s first question for me is, “How happy were you today?” I answer on a 1 to10 scale with 10 being the highest score. Being a Buddhist, one of my life philosophies is very simple -- be happy now. I have a great life, a wonderful wife and kids, good health, don’t have to work, love my job, and don’ t have a boss. If I wasn’t happy today, someone made a big mistake -- that would be me! In spite of all my blessings, I can still sometimes get caught up in day-to- day stress, forget how lucky I am, and act like an idiot. It helps to get a daily reminder of the importance of happiness and gratitude.

Jim then asks, “How many minutes did you spend writing?” This is harder for me. I am an extrovert who loves teaching, coaching, and being with people.

It is hard for me to sit by myself and write. Yet, writing is an important part of my life. Through my writing, I have reached millions of people who have never heard me speak.

Some of my questions are about heath, such as, “How many sit-ups did you do?” (This works! Today I did 400 sit-ups at once. Not bad for a 57-yearold guy!) Disciplined follow-up is the key to the success of my teaching and coaching. One question is, “With how many clients are you current on your follow-up?” My relationship questions include, “Did you say or do something nice for your wife? Your son? Your daughter?” I am not a perfect husband or dad, but this process is helping me get better! Why does this process work? For one, it forces Jim and me to confront how we actually live our values every day. We either believe that something matters or we don’t. If we believe it, we can put it on the list and do it. If we don’t want to do it, we can face reality and quit kidding ourselves.

If a friend of yours or your peer coach were to call you every day and ask you questions about your life, what questions would you want this person to ask you? Write the questions that you would want a friend to ask you every day. The process of writing questions will help you better understand your own values and how you live or don’t live them daily. If you have courage, recruit a friend and start asking daily questions to each other. You may be as amazed at the results as I have been.

Life is good.

Marshall

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Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Don't Let Them Make You Crazy

Think of that one person who drives you crazy -- who upsets you, makes you feel guilty or sad. Does someone come to mind? You may have spent many hours reliving events when this person was unfair, unappreciative, or inconsiderate.

You may have thought, “What a jerk!” Even remembering this person may make your blood pressure rise, your pulse race and your mind fill with grief.

Try not to let this person -- or other people -- make you feel so miserable.

Their problems are their problems. Try not to make them your problems. Letting other people “get to us” is seldom a good idea for two reasons: 1) it does not help the situation and 2) life is too short to spend your time feeling bad.

An old Buddhist parable may help.

A young farmer was covered with sweat as he paddled his boat up the river. He was going upstream to deliver his produce to the village. It was a hot day, and he wanted to make his delivery and get home before dark. As he looked ahead, he spied another vessel, heading rapidly downstream toward his boat. He rowed furiously to get out of the way, but it didn’t seem to help.

He yelled, “Change direction, you idiot! You are going to hit me!” His screaming was to no avail. The other vessel hit his boat with a sickening thud. He was enraged as he cried out, “You moron! How could you manage to hit my boat in the middle of this wide river? What is wrong with you?” He then realized that he was screaming at an empty boat that had broken free of its moorings and was floating downstream with the current.

The point of this story is simple.

There is never anyone in the other boat. We are always screaming at an empty vessel.

The person who is making you so angry can’t help but be who he is, and getting mad at him makes no sense.

You don’t have to like the other person, respect him, or agree with him. Just accept that he is who he is and decide not to let his craziness become yours.

Often, the cause of our anger is not the other person. We are usually mad at ourselves. For example, on a recent flight, I talked to an investor who had bought a small business. He was livid about how the original owner had let him down. In spite of the owner’s positive initial impression, he consistently missed commitments. The investor told me how the owner had induced him to make a poor investment. The investor was a multi-millionaire who lived in a beautiful home in Switzerland and had a lovely wife and child.

I asked how long this had upset him.

He angrily grunted, “Many months!” I suggested that the real cause of his anger might be that he was incensed with himself for being a poor judge of character and not conducting adequate due diligence in the purchase.

He reflected, “You’re right. In hindsight, I was dumb for making this purchase. I’m usually a good judge of character and have a great sense for these deals. I just screwed this one up! I’m really mad at me for missing this one!” I suggested that getting upset with himself for making one mistake was even crazier than getting upset at the other person. He was successful in spite of this mistake. Besides, in the future, he could learn from what he did wrong. By the end of the flight, he decided to sell the business, cut his losses, and enjoy life with his family! The next time you feel like another person is making you crazy, just smile and say, “There is no one in the other boat.” Accept him for who he is and make the best of it.

Also, look in the mirror. The person you are angry with may be staring back at you. Forgive yourself for making a mistake in judgment. Cut your losses, get on with life, and enjoy your family!

Life is good.

Marshall

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